How to Get Out of the Rut If You’re Feeling Stuck


One of the life lessons everyone learns at some point is that life never goes as smoothly as everyone would want it to. There comes a time when you may feel like you are stuck in a rut. And when you reach that point, you may experience losing the drive or passion for the things you used to enjoy doing. The good news is that this can happen to anyone. Even the most successful people experience it from time to time. The only difference is that they do not let life’s potholes stop them from reaching their goals. So how do you escape from rut? Here are some ideas that you may find useful.

Take stock of what’s happening

If something does not feel right, you have to pay attention and take stock of what is happening. Take time to evaluate your personal or career life. If it seems like it has stalled, it may be time to make some changes before things get worse. Some of the signs you may experience at this point include:

Stuck in a boring loop – Boredom strikes everyone from time to time. It is normal and it may even do you some good. Some people use boredom to spark their creativity. Others use it as a reason to take up a new hobby. If you feel like you are doing the same dull routines over and over again, you want to make some changes to break free from the cycle.

Feeling disconnected and uninspired – You know something is not right when you feel disconnected. Lack of inspiration and engagement becomes worrisome when it begins to affect your decisions and performance.

Lack of enthusiasm – Enthusiasm sparks action. It drives you to achieve the things you do. Once it is gone, it would be harder to muster the motivation to keep going. For this reason, you need to guard it well. You have to work on igniting your enthusiasm back to life if you feel that you are losing it.

Take action to get out of the rut

You cannot accomplish much if you stay in a rut. You have to get yourself out of it as quickly as you can or you might as well say goodbye to your goals. So how do you do it?

See it from a different perspective – That feeling of being stuck in life can trigger a lot of negative emotions. Do not let anxiety or worry affect the way you see things. Look at the problem from a different perspective. See it as an opportunity to reevaluate your plans and goals. It may be a sign that you need to make some changes in your life.

Practice self-compassion – Don’t beat yourself up. Instead, use the time to take care of yourself. Take a break, relax, pamper yourself, and spend the time to reflect on your next steps.

Don’t wallow – Everything passes. You just have to weather through it. No matter how difficult the situation, don’t let the negativity paralyze you into inaction. Instead, unstuck yourself by doing things regardless of how small they may be. This is a much better use of your time than wallowing in a rut.

The One Thing Holding You Back



Life is just a series of challenges with moments of steadiness and everything else in between. Some of the things you deal with may be easy while others will test you to your limits. But regardless of how simple or complex things may get, your choices and decisions can go a long way in defining the outcomes. If you want to overcome whatever curveball life may suddenly throw at you, dealing with the one thing holding you back in making the best decision a situation calls for can be a big help.

It may not seem like much, but sometimes changing your perspective on things is an important step towards solving some of the most difficult problems you may face. Once you change the way you look at things, especially when it comes to firmly-held beliefs, you allow yourself to explore possible solutions you may not have considered before.

One of the things you can do to deal with obstacles and struggles is to focus on the possible lessons you can learn from what seems like an unpleasant or harsh experience. You can also shift your attention to potential benefits or whatever it is that you think you can get from taking on the challenge. Taking the challenges as opportunities in disguise is likewise a great way to change the way you perceive them. Visualizing successful outcomes is also a great way to change how you feel about a problem. You can use visualization to think and feel what accomplishing what may seem like a tough feat would be like. Sometimes all it takes is to get creative in imagining solutions and coming up with various ways to deal with problems to start resolving them.

Find the Passion in Your Life by Doing These Effective Steps


Life will always find a way to surprise you. This includes your passion. Have you found it yet? Others find their passion in life easily, some people don’t.

Are you one of them? That’s alright. If you’re struggling to find your passion in life, we are here to help you find it. It could take time or not. But it depends on you and what you do. So, let’s proceed to help you find the passion in your life!

Don’t Wait For It To Come

Passion comes in surprises. It could be an activity that you’ve done during your childhood days or an activity you’re doing today. The moment that you feel very connected to an activity is the moment that you will find your true passion.

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Do more things. You can’t find your passion without doing anything. Tackle new challenges. Do things that make you happy and excited. One of the things you’ll do could be your hidden passion.

Try to go to the kitchen and concoct something. Something like candied hot peppers and see if you got the chef’s hand!

Be Patient

Don’t overthink. View it as an adventure. As I have said previously, finding your passion could take time, so be patient. Do what you normally do. You can experiment and try interesting things while you’re looking for your passion. This will help you discover and explore fascinating things about yourself.

Avoid “What Ifs”

You’re Just One of the Crowd. Dream Bigger.

“That should be me if only I had continued this.”

This statement is for the losers. Stop doubting about everything. Passion will come.

It might take some time but your passion will find its way to surprise you. Let go of any “what ifs” and try to live your life positively.

Are you looking for your passion? Here are some of the answers to your question! Finding passion is a journey, a never-ending happy journey! The moment that you’ll find your true passion is the moment that you’ll discover more about yourself and life.

Life Lessons from a Naval Admiral

Naval Admiral William H. McRaven’s commencement speech at the University of Texas in 2014 is a goldmine of life lessons that are useful not just for the widely admired Navy SEALS. The nuggets of wisdom he shared can be used in overcoming adversity and dealing with every day challenges.

President Powers, Provost Fenves, Deans, members of the faculty, family and friends and most importantly, the class of 2014. Congratulations on your achievement.

It’s been almost 37 years to the day that I graduated from UT. I remember a lot of things about that day. I remember I had throbbing headache from a party the night before. I remember I had a serious girlfriend, whom I later married — that’s important to remember by the way — and I remember that I was getting commissioned in the Navy that day.

But of all the things I remember, I don’t have a clue who the commencement speaker was that evening, and I certainly don’t remember anything they said. So, acknowledging that fact, if I can’t make this commencement speech memorable, I will at least try to make it short.

The University’s slogan is, “What starts here changes the world.” I have to admit — I kinda like it. “What starts here changes the world.”

Tonight there are almost 8,000 students graduating from UT. That great paragon of analytical rigor, Ask.Com, says that the average American will meet 10,000 people in their lifetime. That’s a lot of folks. But, if every one of you changed the lives of just 10 people — and each one of those folks changed the lives of another 10 people — just 10 — then in five generations — 125 years — the class of 2014 will have changed the lives of 800 million people.

800 million people — think of it — over twice the population of the United States. Go one more generation and you can change the entire population of the world — eight billion people.

If you think it’s hard to change the lives of 10 people — change their lives forever — you’re wrong. I saw it happen every day in Iraq and Afghanistan: A young Army officer makes a decision to go left instead of right down a road in Baghdad and the 10 soldiers in his squad are saved from close-in ambush. In Kandahar province, Afghanistan, a non-commissioned officer from the Female Engagement Team senses something isn’t right and directs the infantry platoon away from a 500-pound IED, saving the lives of a dozen soldiers.

But, if you think about it, not only were these soldiers saved by the decisions of one person, but their children yet unborn were also saved. And their children’s children were saved. Generations were saved by one decision, by one person.

But changing the world can happen anywhere and anyone can do it. So, what starts here can indeed change the world, but the question is — what will the world look like after you change it?

Well, I am confident that it will look much, much better. But if you will humor this old sailor for just a moment, I have a few suggestions that may help you on your way to a better a world. And while these lessons were learned during my time in the military, I can assure you that it matters not whether you ever served a day in uniform. It matters not your gender, your ethnic or religious background, your orientation or your social status.

Our struggles in this world are similar, and the lessons to overcome those struggles and to move forward — changing ourselves and the world around us — will apply equally to all.

I have been a Navy SEAL for 36 years. But it all began when I left UT for Basic SEAL training in Coronado, California. Basic SEAL training is six months of long torturous runs in the soft sand, midnight swims in the cold water off San Diego, obstacles courses, unending calisthenics, days without sleep and always being cold, wet and miserable. It is six months of being constantly harrassed by professionally trained warriors who seek to find the weak of mind and body and eliminate them from ever becoming a Navy SEAL.

But, the training also seeks to find those students who can lead in an environment of constant stress, chaos, failure and hardships. To me basic SEAL training was a lifetime of challenges crammed into six months.

So, here are the 10 lessons I learned from basic SEAL training that hopefully will be of value to you as you move forward in life.

Every morning in basic SEAL training, my instructors, who at the time were all Vietnam veterans, would show up in my barracks room and the first thing they would inspect was your bed. If you did it right, the corners would be square, the covers pulled tight, the pillow centered just under the headboard and the extra blanket folded neatly at the foot of the rack — that’s Navy talk for bed.

It was a simple task — mundane at best. But every morning we were required to make our bed to perfection. It seemed a little ridiculous at the time, particularly in light of the fact that were aspiring to be real warriors, tough battle-hardened SEALs, but the wisdom of this simple act has been proven to me many times over.

If you make your bed every morning you will have accomplished the first task of the day. It will give you a small sense of pride, and it will encourage you to do another task and another and another. By the end of the day, that one task completed will have turned into many tasks completed. Making your bed will also reinforce the fact that little things in life matter. If you can’t do the little things right, you will never do the big things right.

And, if by chance you have a miserable day, you will come home to a bed that is made — that you made — and a made bed gives you encouragement that tomorrow will be better.

If you want to change the world, start off by making your bed.

During SEAL training the students are broken down into boat crews. Each crew is seven students — three on each side of a small rubber boat and one coxswain to help guide the dingy. Every day your boat crew forms up on the beach and is instructed to get through the surfzone and paddle several miles down the coast. In the winter, the surf off San Diego can get to be 8 to 10 feet high and it is exceedingly difficult to paddle through the plunging surf unless everyone digs in. Every paddle must be synchronized to the stroke count of the coxswain. Everyone must exert equal effort or the boat will turn against the wave and be unceremoniously tossed back on the beach.

For the boat to make it to its destination, everyone must paddle. You can’t change the world alone — you will need some help — and to truly get from your starting point to your destination takes friends, colleagues, the good will of strangers and a strong coxswain to guide them.

If you want to change the world, find someone to help you paddle.

Over a few weeks of difficult training my SEAL class, which started with 150 men, was down to just 35. There were now six boat crews of seven men each. I was in the boat with the tall guys, but the best boat crew we had was made up of the the little guys — the munchkin crew we called them — no one was over about five-foot-five.

The munchkin boat crew had one American Indian, one African American, one Polish American, one Greek American, one Italian American, and two tough kids from the midwest. They out-paddled, out-ran and out-swam all the other boat crews. The big men in the other boat crews would always make good-natured fun of the tiny little flippers the munchkins put on their tiny little feet prior to every swim. But somehow these little guys, from every corner of the nation and the world, always had the last laugh — swimming faster than everyone and reaching the shore long before the rest of us.

SEAL training was a great equalizer. Nothing mattered but your will to succeed. Not your color, not your ethnic background, not your education and not your social status.

If you want to change the world, measure a person by the size of their heart, not the size of their flippers.

Several times a week, the instructors would line up the class and do a uniform inspection. It was exceptionally thorough. Your hat had to be perfectly starched, your uniform immaculately pressed and your belt buckle shiny and void of any smudges. But it seemed that no matter how much effort you put into starching your hat, or pressing your uniform or polishing your belt buckle — it just wasn’t good enough. The instructors would find “something” wrong.

For failing the uniform inspection, the student had to run, fully clothed into the surfzone and then, wet from head to toe, roll around on the beach until every part of your body was covered with sand. The effect was known as a “sugar cookie.” You stayed in that uniform the rest of the day — cold, wet and sandy.

There were many a student who just couldn’t accept the fact that all their effort was in vain. That no matter how hard they tried to get the uniform right, it was unappreciated. Those students didn’t make it through training. Those students didn’t understand the purpose of the drill. You were never going to succeed. You were never going to have a perfect uniform.

Sometimes no matter how well you prepare or how well you perform you still end up as a sugar cookie. It’s just the way life is sometimes.

If you want to change the world get over being a sugar cookie and keep moving forward.

Every day during training you were challenged with multiple physical events — long runs, long swims, obstacle courses, hours of calisthenics — something designed to test your mettle. Every event had standards — times you had to meet. If you failed to meet those standards your name was posted on a list, and at the end of the day those on the list were invited to a “circus.” A circus was two hours of additional calisthenics designed to wear you down, to break your spirit, to force you to quit.

No one wanted a circus.

A circus meant that for that day you didn’t measure up. A circus meant more fatigue — and more fatigue meant that the following day would be more difficult — and more circuses were likely. But at some time during SEAL training, everyone — everyone — made the circus list.

But an interesting thing happened to those who were constantly on the list. Over time those students — who did two hours of extra calisthenics — got stronger and stronger. The pain of the circuses built inner strength, built physical resiliency.

Life is filled with circuses. You will fail. You will likely fail often. It will be painful. It will be discouraging. At times it will test you to your very core.

But if you want to change the world, don’t be afraid of the circuses.

At least twice a week, the trainees were required to run the obstacle course. The obstacle course contained 25 obstacles including a 10-foot high wall, a 30-foot cargo net and a barbed wire crawl, to name a few. But the most challenging obstacle was the slide for life. It had a three-level 30-foot tower at one end and a one-level tower at the other. In between was a 200-foot-long rope. You had to climb the three-tiered tower and once at the top, you grabbed the rope, swung underneath the rope and pulled yourself hand over hand until you got to the other end.

The record for the obstacle course had stood for years when my class began training in 1977. The record seemed unbeatable, until one day, a student decided to go down the slide for life head first. Instead of swinging his body underneath the rope and inching his way down, he bravely mounted the TOP of the rope and thrust himself forward.

It was a dangerous move — seemingly foolish, and fraught with risk. Failure could mean injury and being dropped from the training. Without hesitation the student slid down the rope perilously fast. Instead of several minutes, it only took him half that time and by the end of the course he had broken the record.

If you want to change the world sometimes you have to slide down the obstacle head first.

During the land warfare phase of training, the students are flown out to San Clemente Island which lies off the coast of San Diego. The waters off San Clemente are a breeding ground for the great white sharks. To pass SEAL training there are a series of long swims that must be completed. One is the night swim.

Before the swim the instructors joyfully brief the trainees on all the species of sharks that inhabit the waters off San Clemente. They assure you, however, that no student has ever been eaten by a shark — at least not recently. But, you are also taught that if a shark begins to circle your position — stand your ground. Do not swim away. Do not act afraid. And if the shark, hungry for a midnight snack, darts towards you — then summon up all your strength and punch him in the snout, and he will turn and swim away.

There are a lot of sharks in the world. If you hope to complete the swim you will have to deal with them.

So, if you want to change the world, don’t back down from the sharks.

As Navy SEALs one of our jobs is to conduct underwater attacks against enemy shipping. We practiced this technique extensively during basic training. The ship attack mission is where a pair of SEAL divers is dropped off outside an enemy harbor and then swims well over two miles — underwater — using nothing but a depth gauge and a compass to get to their target.

During the entire swim, even well below the surface, there is some light that comes through. It is comforting to know that there is open water above you. But as you approach the ship, which is tied to a pier, the light begins to fade. The steel structure of the ship blocks the moonlight, it blocks the surrounding street lamps, it blocks all ambient light.